my mom left me a house in the will its a 55 and over community im 52 is there any way i can get to stay there and keep the house

It depends on the community.  Some will allow the house to stay in the name of the estate.  Some will not.  If you are married, and you spouse is age 55, they will allow you to put both names on the property.  i think the main concern is children under the age of 18 living in the house.  Some of the communities in Ocean county have waved the requirements because of the need for housing after the hurricane.  You should check with the homeowner's association of the community.