What can I do if my son is incompetent to handle inherited money?

You would need to petition for guardianship.

Seek the assistance of probate counsel to file a petition for conservatorship of his person and estate to obtain control and protect him from himself.

You would need to file for a guardianship of for your son, of both his person and estate in the Probate Court where he resides. If you believe that this is an urgent and life threatening matter, you can apply for an emergency guardianship.

You may be able to put your son's inheritance in a spendthrift trust if the estate isn't settled yet. You can also petition the local probate court to determine that your son is no longer competent to handle his own finances and to name a conservator to handle his money.

You can seek a conservatorship of his finances, but be prepared for a battle. You will be responsible for the costs and your attorney's fees, but can ask the court to reimburse you if the conservatorship is granted.

You need to get a guardian appointed for your son immediately to handle his physical, medical and financial issues. You will need an opinion of a doctor that your son is not competent to handle his own affairs, unless your son would consent. Let me know if you need a referral.

You can look into the court to appoint a guardian to handle his financial affairs. It's to bad a Trust was not created while Grandpa was alive.

I assume that the funds were all left directly to your son and not set up in a trust? If that is the case, then going to court is probably your only alternative. You need to be appointed your son's guardian and conservator. This can only be done through the probate court. If your son objects, then you will need to get the judge to order an independent medical review to determine whether your son is incapacitated, and the extent to which he is. There is no law which provides protection to adults who simply make bad choices. There is no inherent help for alcoholics or (other) drug addicts. So it is not a sure thing that the court will appoint you. If a doctor finds that your son is a danger to himself or others, then you may be able to get appointment. There are other issues, here, as well. In a sense, by allowing your son to live with you, you are enabling him to continue to use, and you are preventing him from realizing the full expense of his illnesses. In order for him to get better, you may actually need to force him to leave, as hard as that may be. Given where things are at, you are not in a position to determine what is best, right now. For that reason, it is VERY important that you get help, for YOU. I would strongly encourage you to attend Alanon meetings. That may give you the strength, courage and wisdom to take whatever steps are necessary. I lived with an alcoholic for many years, and I know how extremely difficult this can be, and the toll that it takes on YOU. Your getting help for you may be the only thing that you can do, but it may also be the most important thing you can do for you, and for your son. I wish you the very best of luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

You should petition the court to have yourself appointed as conservator. You'll need a lawyer who specializes; fees would be paid from son's money.

Yes you can check with adult protective services (regarding his friends getting him to pay for their parties = financial abuse) and talk to them about a guardianship for your son. If they can't help I bet they would have alternative resources who could help you deal with this issue.

You need to file a petition to be his guardian and conservator. Find an attorney who handles that type of law immediately.

You can start a guardianship proceeding. This will require doctors evaluations and can be contested by him. As an interested person you can file the action to begin the process for appointment of a guardian.

You could have a court declare your son to be incapable of managing his finances, and place someone in charge of his money as his legal guardian.