Can't find will that was made years ago when husband still alive. Think it was with lawyers Friend and Friend but not sure.

I'm sorry for your loss.  Finding the will is often a problem.  You should call the lawyer, or friend and find out if they ever did a will, and if they did, find a copy of it.  You can probate a copy, although its more difficult.  If you cannot find the will, you can become the administrator of the estate by doing an "intestate" probate.  Intestate means without a will.  As the surviving spouse, you have the right to do that.  You will need to go to the probate office of the county in which you live, and talk to the clerks there.  Call my office if you need help. Good Luck.