You need to give your child control via a Durable Power of Attorney and a Medical Power of Attorney, properly executed. The latter can be given to your child immediately or the authority can spring into existence WHEN you lose your capacity. You can also specifically disqualify your husband from serving in that capacity.
You also need to prepare a Will that excludes your spouse from inheriting anything from you.
The best advice to you is to immediately get divorced. You will still need to sign the cited documents, but a divorce will eliminate the spouse from all of these issues.
Sincerely,
Kevin Spencer
www.spencerlawpc.com
Answered on Jul 16th, 2016 at 7:54 AM