help me understand please, it is my belief that my Executor hereunder will in there sole discrection provide my wifes care and welfare

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband. As for your posts, in Georgia a married person is free to leave assets to whomever he wishes, for the most part. As a surviving spouse, you have the right to make a claim for a "year's support" from your husband's probate estate, but otherwise if he left a valid Will, then the Will will control. It sounds as if his intent was to leave property to a trust for your benefit, rather than leaving it to you outright. That kind of planning is often done in order to allow a spouse to benefit from property but to also ensure that any remaining property at the spouse's later death will go to the deceased person's other intended beneficiaries, such as a child from a prior marriage. So, it's entirely possible that your husband did not intend to leave you property outright. Unfortunately, without actually seeing your husband's Will, no one will be able to tell you exactly what it says or how it is intended to operate. You need to contact an attorney and have them review the Will. You may be able to challenge it, if you think it is not valid or not validly execute it. You may also be able to make a claim for a year's support and get access to assets that way. However, you should not delay- you only have a fairly short period of time to act if you want to make a year's support claim or try to challenge the Will. Best wishes to you.