I am an hier but the executor who is not related and a lawyer does NOT talk to me. I call and ask questions and he never returns my calls. How is this

The executor and the executor's lawyer have no duty to talk with you.  More than a year after the court appoints the executor (the length of time varies from state to state), a beneficiary may demand an accounting.  This gives the heir time to collect the assets, pay the debts and file the final tax return.