Bars have different kinds of licenses and different policies. For example, if a bar serves significant amounts of food, it might be able to allow to let in the underage or let them in up to a certain time. Bars may also be policed differently. Inspectors may show up at one bar and not at others. Usually that is based on if nearby neighbors complain about a bar. Also, some bar owners are lackadaisical about following the law and risk accumulating citations that could close them down and others are very strict. More than likely, the bars are justified in not allowing you there. Some bars may also be reacting to your mother bringing her child to a bar so your mom can get intoxicated. Based on this fact pattern, it seems likely your mother is a problem drinker or an alcoholic. For her to involve you in her drinking is abusive. You say your family is very low income, and yet your mother is spending money at bars, enough to get intoxicated to where she cannot legally drive. At age 19, you are spending your time in bars waiting for your mother to get drunk, so you can safely drive her home. You should be spending your time doing your schoolwork, pursuing your interests, developing friendships, having a part time job. Could the time and money your mother spends at a bar be better spent on your education, her education, a job, a fitness club, healthcare, etc?I hope you will look at whether your family life is healthy. You might consider speaking with a counselor about this. Look up Al-Anon, a support group for families of alcoholics. Most moms do not hang out in bars, let alone bring their kids there. If your mom needs to drink, most likely she is dependent on alcohol, or an alcoholic. If you are spending time in bars, it can seem like a lot of people do this, but in fact, most moms are at home with their teens, being supportive of them in their education and sports and activities. Instead, you are being forced to enable your mom in her drinking.It sounds as if the tables have turned, where you are being required to act as the parent for your mother. This is the time in your life when you should be going to college and pursuing your own goals and dreams. An unhealthy family life or can lead to so many social and legal problems for decades to come. Look into patterning your own life around success in education, work, and relationships, rather than patterning it on access to alcohol. I urge you to take a first step to talk with someone about it....
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